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Showing posts with label Personality. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Personality. Show all posts
Friday, May 24, 2013
Sunday, May 19, 2013
Girl - Ideal
- Younger: 2-3 years; natural tendency to help them grow and learn
- University-educated: somewhat high level uni
- Similar interests (museums/galleries/parks) -> even as time passes because you share and want to do the same thing, you both head in same direction and grow in same direction (even if you change, you still are together)
- Importance on family: but still want to work in some job for money
- English? (or maybe travelled/studied overseas...past tense... watch out for possibility of long distance...)
- Family open about foreigners, and daughter marriage with foreigner.
- Seoul?
- Personality: outgoing/talkative/extrovert
- University-educated: somewhat high level uni
- Similar interests (museums/galleries/parks) -> even as time passes because you share and want to do the same thing, you both head in same direction and grow in same direction (even if you change, you still are together)
- Importance on family: but still want to work in some job for money
- English? (or maybe travelled/studied overseas...past tense... watch out for possibility of long distance...)
- Family open about foreigners, and daughter marriage with foreigner.
- Seoul?
- Personality: outgoing/talkative/extrovert
Friday, April 12, 2013
Men and Women - Symbolized Gender
Being a Man, and Being a Women; i.e. the symbol and resemblance of Gender; is false.
Gender is merely the creation of a society mixed between powerful and powerless, attempting to reestablish the powerful's rule over the powerless.
Man: is merely a person who characterises symbols (acts, behaviours, or images) that signify "a Man".
Woman too is also merely a person full of symbols that signify "a Woman".
"Man". If you merely act those symbols and make them a part of you, a part of your habits and daily activities; then you a man.
What kind of symbols are they?
- Initiative, and making decisions
- Taking care of others
- Physically strong
- Kind, but Assertive.
- The supporter of the family (even if he doesn't 100% control the resulting finances).
- "strong", not only in strength (muscles and stance); but also in independence (one who can make the right decisions at the right time; one who has emotional strength and stability; and one who has confidence at all times).
Symbols are falsehood; merely language, speech acts, and acts of confidence that are able to convey an identity. This identity is being constructed and re-constructed by others; you and others; the world at large who decides who and what a man should be.
You should look at those symbols, the new ones and the old; become strong, and change depending on the external world.
Gender is merely the creation of a society mixed between powerful and powerless, attempting to reestablish the powerful's rule over the powerless.
Man: is merely a person who characterises symbols (acts, behaviours, or images) that signify "a Man".
Woman too is also merely a person full of symbols that signify "a Woman".
"Man". If you merely act those symbols and make them a part of you, a part of your habits and daily activities; then you a man.
What kind of symbols are they?
- Initiative, and making decisions
- Taking care of others
- Physically strong
- Kind, but Assertive.
- The supporter of the family (even if he doesn't 100% control the resulting finances).
- "strong", not only in strength (muscles and stance); but also in independence (one who can make the right decisions at the right time; one who has emotional strength and stability; and one who has confidence at all times).
Symbols are falsehood; merely language, speech acts, and acts of confidence that are able to convey an identity. This identity is being constructed and re-constructed by others; you and others; the world at large who decides who and what a man should be.
You should look at those symbols, the new ones and the old; become strong, and change depending on the external world.
The importance of books, in the external world
Books are made from language. But language can either describe reality, or make it's own reality.
In the world of information, it is too hard to distinguish between the two now.
How do we know if a book is describing the real world, the external world; or merely describing it's own world, the imaginary world of internal?
One way we can decipher this code is by doing. Doing is what gives you personal experience, and against which you can gauge the writings of books.
If a book refers to other books, it is most likely a book of the imaginary.
If a book refers to the real world, of external objects out in the external world; then it is mostly talking about reality. But reality changes too. We must quickly do, and quickly read; adapting ourselves in a reality overtaken by the kings of capitalism.
In the world of information, it is too hard to distinguish between the two now.
How do we know if a book is describing the real world, the external world; or merely describing it's own world, the imaginary world of internal?
One way we can decipher this code is by doing. Doing is what gives you personal experience, and against which you can gauge the writings of books.
If a book refers to other books, it is most likely a book of the imaginary.
If a book refers to the real world, of external objects out in the external world; then it is mostly talking about reality. But reality changes too. We must quickly do, and quickly read; adapting ourselves in a reality overtaken by the kings of capitalism.
Move the "laws" of the internal world to the external world
I lived and played in the internal world; the world of imaginary falsehood.
I learnt the laws, the rules of the game, and I won.
I won by being the master and creator of the best inner world for me.
But then it detoriated.
The inner world is not real; it is imaginary. And so it will instaneously collapse the moment your mind splits for a second. It it too unstable, it shape-shifts and morphs, and collpases and begins again all in one moment and the next.
But I was a master. I knew everything about the rules, about how to press forward and become a King.
I must do the same for the external world. A world that exists between myself and the rest of a million individuals and souls.
It changes. The external world changes as well.
However, I am not the only one who changes it. It is not just a single man's kingdom. And so we must learn to adapt, and to learn.
That is what I will do.
The internal world was my kingdom, and I was the king.
Now I am a mere squire in the real world; and I must start again.
But I am not stupid, I know how to get around and go through all the trapdoors and back alley ways.
It's all a matter of time.
The mind is able to create; but it can also learn and adapt.
In the external world, it's merely letting the world into one's mind and from there moving out to the world again. It's a process of in and out, in and out. And I have already mastered that adaption; just like a charmeleon. It's time to let go and forget; to open one's mind and to expand out to reality.
It starts today.
I learnt the laws, the rules of the game, and I won.
I won by being the master and creator of the best inner world for me.
But then it detoriated.
The inner world is not real; it is imaginary. And so it will instaneously collapse the moment your mind splits for a second. It it too unstable, it shape-shifts and morphs, and collpases and begins again all in one moment and the next.
But I was a master. I knew everything about the rules, about how to press forward and become a King.
I must do the same for the external world. A world that exists between myself and the rest of a million individuals and souls.
It changes. The external world changes as well.
However, I am not the only one who changes it. It is not just a single man's kingdom. And so we must learn to adapt, and to learn.
That is what I will do.
The internal world was my kingdom, and I was the king.
Now I am a mere squire in the real world; and I must start again.
But I am not stupid, I know how to get around and go through all the trapdoors and back alley ways.
It's all a matter of time.
The mind is able to create; but it can also learn and adapt.
In the external world, it's merely letting the world into one's mind and from there moving out to the world again. It's a process of in and out, in and out. And I have already mastered that adaption; just like a charmeleon. It's time to let go and forget; to open one's mind and to expand out to reality.
It starts today.
Internal World Vs External World
The "pains" and "hurts" of being an introvert is not because I am an introvert.
It's because I was an extrovert, who thought he was an introvert, and recieving "pain" because I was not in the external world where I was supposed to be. The internal world was where I stayed, but in fact I should have gone out to the external world and fulfilled my destiny.
The external world is what reality is. It's where real objects exist, where we can touch and feel the rought texture of grass, sand, stone, water and rain.
The internal world is imaginary. It can be whatever we want, and so sucks us in. It is like a black hole where all our actions are directed but we never get anywhere. This is because the world where we inhabited is inside our minds, and inside the minds of the mass conscious. We can pretend that there exists witches, wizards, knights of past, vampires, swordsmen, magical creatures and magic spells. We can travel to the past and the prehistoric. We can travel to other parts of the world, to Asia, to Europe, and can even fly high in the skies like a bird with wings.
But this world, the world we create inside our minds, is not real. Though it is as real as we want it to be.
Where we spend our time: in the internal or the external is what makes our world.
Spending nights and days inside the life of books, of games and of a collective consciousness means that our reality is not the outside world we can touch; but the world of the imaginary.
This is good. We can imagine whatever we want and be happy. But it is also bad. The external world is the true reality where things really matter.
We can play games, and read books entering worlds never heard before; but our health will deteriote, as well as our relationships with work, career, and family. Which is more real?
Language is beautiful. Language is what creates imaginary worlds. However, man must exist out in the external. Out in the dangerous world where we get hurt, and bleed, and cry, and kill.
We must go out, and becomes masters of the external world, where everything real starts and ends.
That is what destiny is called.
Socialistion is a problem. A problem for parents as well as children.
We have a choice. A choice to decide what our children do, and thus become.
But too many parents make mistakes. They give children the indepenence to do whatever they want. If they want to play games, go ahead. If they want to stay inside or read books, then go ahead.
That is not parenting, that is being invisible; why even exist if you will not parent your children?
An anxious attachment begins. They begin to miss and crave human relations. Why aren't people around? Why is it just me in an imaginary world? That's when the hurt begins; the hurt of being an extrovert trapped in an introvert's world.
In the world of internal, we can make whatever we want and decide whatever we want.
In the world of external, we are not the only creators. The world is full of a mixture of causes and reactions, results stemming from a boiling pot of human interaction. We must be flexible, we must be adaptable, we must change as our external world changes.
So too many children are sucked in by the black hole of imagination.
They are trapped in an imagainary play pen of safety and static in-reality.
They are not living, they are merely trapped within a false world of make-belief.
This is where we need to get out; pull them out of the darkness of the mind.
She thinks the same. An introvert wishing to push into her own world of make-belief.
But the reality is, that the external world dictates us and dictates our thoughts.
Our imagination is only as strong as ourselves.
And when the link between the external world and ourselves becomes distraughted by our neglect, we ourselves become weak, darkening our own inner worlds.
What really matters is the external world and how it affects us. She doesn't even know, but I must crack open her mind. I must show her the way, model how to live in reality, and not in imagined falsehood.
Effects go from external to interal, and so that is the way I will work.
To win is not to be alone in a darkened room; but to spread one's wings in the blue sky that blows wind in our face.
The internal world may be more flexible and easier to create and re-create.
But the same can be done of the external world.
It is a reflection of that internal world, but with an extra layer of complexity.
That is why we're scared. Scared of complexity and change.
But it's too simple. The more you do, the more you like, the hungrier you become, and the better you become.
So why lay still in the darkness? Just go out to the light and play.
Play around with the rules of the game; understand what makes the world tick, and live in the outside.
That's is what we are supposed to do, and to believe.
I start today.
It's because I was an extrovert, who thought he was an introvert, and recieving "pain" because I was not in the external world where I was supposed to be. The internal world was where I stayed, but in fact I should have gone out to the external world and fulfilled my destiny.
The external world is what reality is. It's where real objects exist, where we can touch and feel the rought texture of grass, sand, stone, water and rain.
The internal world is imaginary. It can be whatever we want, and so sucks us in. It is like a black hole where all our actions are directed but we never get anywhere. This is because the world where we inhabited is inside our minds, and inside the minds of the mass conscious. We can pretend that there exists witches, wizards, knights of past, vampires, swordsmen, magical creatures and magic spells. We can travel to the past and the prehistoric. We can travel to other parts of the world, to Asia, to Europe, and can even fly high in the skies like a bird with wings.
But this world, the world we create inside our minds, is not real. Though it is as real as we want it to be.
Where we spend our time: in the internal or the external is what makes our world.
Spending nights and days inside the life of books, of games and of a collective consciousness means that our reality is not the outside world we can touch; but the world of the imaginary.
This is good. We can imagine whatever we want and be happy. But it is also bad. The external world is the true reality where things really matter.
We can play games, and read books entering worlds never heard before; but our health will deteriote, as well as our relationships with work, career, and family. Which is more real?
Language is beautiful. Language is what creates imaginary worlds. However, man must exist out in the external. Out in the dangerous world where we get hurt, and bleed, and cry, and kill.
We must go out, and becomes masters of the external world, where everything real starts and ends.
That is what destiny is called.
Socialistion is a problem. A problem for parents as well as children.
We have a choice. A choice to decide what our children do, and thus become.
But too many parents make mistakes. They give children the indepenence to do whatever they want. If they want to play games, go ahead. If they want to stay inside or read books, then go ahead.
That is not parenting, that is being invisible; why even exist if you will not parent your children?
An anxious attachment begins. They begin to miss and crave human relations. Why aren't people around? Why is it just me in an imaginary world? That's when the hurt begins; the hurt of being an extrovert trapped in an introvert's world.
In the world of internal, we can make whatever we want and decide whatever we want.
In the world of external, we are not the only creators. The world is full of a mixture of causes and reactions, results stemming from a boiling pot of human interaction. We must be flexible, we must be adaptable, we must change as our external world changes.
So too many children are sucked in by the black hole of imagination.
They are trapped in an imagainary play pen of safety and static in-reality.
They are not living, they are merely trapped within a false world of make-belief.
This is where we need to get out; pull them out of the darkness of the mind.
She thinks the same. An introvert wishing to push into her own world of make-belief.
But the reality is, that the external world dictates us and dictates our thoughts.
Our imagination is only as strong as ourselves.
And when the link between the external world and ourselves becomes distraughted by our neglect, we ourselves become weak, darkening our own inner worlds.
What really matters is the external world and how it affects us. She doesn't even know, but I must crack open her mind. I must show her the way, model how to live in reality, and not in imagined falsehood.
Effects go from external to interal, and so that is the way I will work.
To win is not to be alone in a darkened room; but to spread one's wings in the blue sky that blows wind in our face.
The internal world may be more flexible and easier to create and re-create.
But the same can be done of the external world.
It is a reflection of that internal world, but with an extra layer of complexity.
That is why we're scared. Scared of complexity and change.
But it's too simple. The more you do, the more you like, the hungrier you become, and the better you become.
So why lay still in the darkness? Just go out to the light and play.
Play around with the rules of the game; understand what makes the world tick, and live in the outside.
That's is what we are supposed to do, and to believe.
I start today.
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