Now that a new insight have been found, life seems to be easy now... Questions that I have now answered:
Why do we look for patterns?? Patterns in life represent the "rules of game".
These rules express which actions will be punished, and which actions
will bring benefits. They are expressed through structures which were
created by past agents and historical forces. You need to look for
these patterns because they are different at each time (different from
your elders' time), and in each cultural grouping (i.e. city/country).
Get your actions closer to these "rules" and you will invite benefits
to yourself. To do this you need complete information, and to do the
right thing at the right time (i.e. become a rational actor). Act away from these rules, and you be be punished. And continue to be punished again and again.
Individuals have free will and so they can choose to act away from
these rules. However, for expressing their "individuality" they will be
punished, and continue to be punished for acting away from the rules.
Most often the result is despair within the system, or an attempt to get
out of system altogether (move to a different country?). Is
strength being able to continue to express your "individuallity" while
continously being punished again and again by these structural forces? I
don't think so.
As free-willed individuals, we can attempt to
change the structures that govern these "rules of the game". But when we
are young, it is close to impossible. Why? Because we don't fully
understand the rules of the world (lack of life experience), and we have
less power (financial, social connections and work experience). The
only possible exception is those youth who have recieved social and
financial power from their parents (social and cultural inheritance).
I would suggest that to be able to become stronger socially than you
already are, to first shutup, say yes to everyone above you, work hard,
save lots and follow the rules to recieve the benefits of the
mainstream. After you have enough resources, and enough wisdom, then you
can have the freedom to pursue what you want.
We can create
our own history, but only when the strength of that historical power
gets past a threshold can we truly be powerful enough to control our own
destiny. Strength to the loyalists. Drop your heads, and bow to the kings above us.