Transform 'Don't Touch Me' Into "Please Touch Me!" When Meeting Korean Women!

Transform 'Don't Touch Me' Into "Please Touch Me!" When
Meeting Korean Women!

"Don't touch me!" - Discover how to transform that into 'Please touch me!' when meeting Korean women and get more intimate successfully.
When a Korean woman says "don't touch me!" does she always mean it?

Of course she does!

But that doesn't mean she doesn't want you to touch her AT ALL.

Most normal human beings love physical contact.

She'd love it from you too if you can handle her feedback.

So what CAN you do to make you touching her something she accepts and wants?

It depends on understanding 'why' she's saying it and how you handle her objection:

• when you just meet her

• when you're building rapport and comfort with her

• when you're in bed with her

Soon you'll discover how to make her go from "no touchee!" to "touch me now!" ;-)

Why She's Saying "Don't Touch Me!"

At the surface it may seem like she just doesn't want you to touch her.

If you dig deeper you find out that it's not the case.

In fact she DOES want you to touch her.

Human beings love physical touch and in some cultures it's common to be physically close (even for Koreans.)

Touching someone is another way of getting to know them.

Remember when you were a kid and touched everything? Maybe even today you and her touch things you're curious about.

Touching is natural and if you want to know more on how to touch a girl the right way then click on the link.

You'll discover what you need to change for making her feel comfortable with you touching her.

So once you know HOW intimate touching works we can then work on what to do when she says "Don't touch me!"

Handle Feedback When You're
Meeting Korean Women

If you're starting an interaction with her and she's saying "Don't touch me!" there here things you can do.

Understand that when a woman says that she just wants you to ease up on (but not stop) the touching until she feels comfortable.

Look at her like she's being silly (which she is.) Touching is something people do. In some cultures even strangers touch each other as a form of communication and contact.
Some people even kiss at first meeting!
By giving her a look that she's being silly you're making her feel like SHE'S the one being socially inappropriate. Especially if she's making a scene.

In the meantime re-calibrate your touching so that she feels comfortable. For a list of where to appropriately start intimate touching and making it more confortable click on the link.
Mimic her silliness. If she's still saying "don't touch me!" then you can mimic her. Act like a spoiled little girl as you mimic her. That will get a laugh out of her and make her realize that she's being silly.

Re-calibrate your touching and continue.

Handling Feedback When You're
Building Rapport And Comfort

What if you're getting to know each other and she's still asking you not to touch her? I share some stories to remind her that touching is natural and vital for people.

Talk about your touchy grandparents or culture. I would personally tell her how my grandmother and her mediterranean culture was very touchy-feely.

At first I was weirded out by it as a kid but eventually I realized that it's natural and fun.

So touching people is part of my culture.

Talk about how you're a touchy-feely person. I recommend telling her that you're naturally touchy-feely and that it's part of who you are. You can then ask her if she knew any other touchy-feely people who she DID like touching her. We all have someone.

As she thinks about that person she'll remember how comfortable she was when that person touched her.

That will make her start to feel comfortable with you.

Tell her about the strange case in the hospital. In the early 20th century a hospital kept having babies that died. Nobody knew why because the babies were healthy and had food and water.

It wasn't until they noticed how the surviving babies were the ones that the nurses held. People NEED touch.

What If She Says "Don't Touch Me!"
In The Bedroom?

Let's be frank here. If she's in your bed it's not because she needs a place to sleep. When a woman says it in bed it's either because there's something you haven't addressed or you're escalating too quickly.

Make a game of it. If you're kissing her shoulder and she says "no touchee!" then playfully ask her if you can kiss her somewhere else (as you do it.) Kiss her upper arm and ask "How about here?" Keep it up and she'll lighten up.

Act turned off. If she insists that you don't touch her then I recommend being annoyed (not angry) and getting out of bed to do something else.

In both cases she'll open up and hint at what's holding her back at being intimate with you. Maybe she's afraid that you'll just use her for sex and throw her out. Maybe she's insecure about her body. Whatever it is let her open up and address it.

Whatever happens I STRONGLY DISCOURAGE you from escalating the intimacy if she says "Stop!" or walks (runs) away from you. There is a fine line between voluntary sex and rape. Use your own judgement.

Speaking of fine line...

When Should You Just Stop Touching Her?

For me when I'm meeting Korean women I stop touching them if they walk away. I don't pursue.

If they walk away from you too then that's fine. What's IMPORTANT is that they know you're a sensual man.

This is vital because in the future if you see her again and she's looking for a man to be intimate with then chances are she'll pick you.

Why? Because you're brave enough to be sensual so she knows she can show that side of herself with you. You wanting to bed her will not surprise her. In fact if she came back to "talk to you" it's because she wants (and expects) you to make a pass.

In any case you'll notice better results as you meet and touch Korean women.

Have fun! ;-)

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How To Touch a Girl From Korea Troubleshooting Tips!

How To Touch a Girl From
Korea Troubleshooting Tips!

How to touch a girl troubleshooting guide - everything you need to know for making Korean women comfortable with your intimate touching.

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Want to know how to touch a girl (from Korea) to make her more comfortable with your intimate touching?

People touching each other is natural and fun.

Even more: intimate relationships and seduction come from physical touch.

Making sure that the Korean woman you're seducing enjoys your physical touch is VITAL if you want more intimacy.

During my 4+ years of coaching men at meeting and dating Korean women I've seen common touching mistakes.

Below you'll discover what might be holding you back.

You'll also learn what the #1 mistake guys make when touching a woman is.

Rest easy - you'll soon transform your touching from inappropriate to desirable!

Discover The Power of Touch!

Touching someone is a basic human need. Everyone loves being touched and touch is vital to a solid seduction.

When we were infants nurses and our mother HAD to hold us a lot. This gave our human bodies the touching we needed to feel love and affection.

Even animals love touch. That's why animals with a deep connection hug each other or touch one another.

Think about a pet cat or dog. We love them because they come and touch us. We also enjoy touching them because it makes both of us feel good.

When it comes to touching a Korean woman the feelings are the same: You love giving her touch just like you did with a pet. She loves receiving touch if you do it the right way.

First let's look at the typical mistakes guys make when touching a woman intimately.

How To Touch a Girl The Wrong Way

Touch her too intimately too soon. If you're touching her and she's not comfortable it might be because you're touching her too intimately.

Even if you're just touching her upper back she might feel it's too intimate for HER.

Especially with Korean women whose Asian culture is not a touching one.

That doesn't mean that she doesn't want to be touched.

It just means that you're going too fast (for her) with the touching.

Re-calibrate and go slower with the touching.

For more on intimate touching and what to do to make it happen sooner...click on the link!

Touch her but feeling uncomfortable yourself. Another common mistake guys make is to make the touching uncomfortable. You might be hesitating and believe me she can feel it. If you're uncomfortable so will she be.

Touch randomly and unexpectedly. If you've been chatting her up for an hour and then start holding her hand she'll jump back.

The problem in this case isn't that you touched her. The problem was that it was too sudden and in this case too intimate.

Touch her too desperately. Women are very intuitive creatures. If you're touching her and she can tell that it's desperate and creepy then she'll reject it.

So if this is all about how to touch a girl the wrong way then what is the right way?

How To Touch a Girl The Right Way!

Make the touching gradual and predictable. If you start touching her slightly at first and in comfortable places then she'll feel comfortable. As you escalate the interaction and you escalate the touching she'll keep feeling comfortable…even as the touching gets more intimate.

Make intimate touching work with the practical steps in this link.

Make 'touching' a reward. Whether it's just a pat on the back or a long massage - touching is a reward you give. I recommend touching her with the same mindset you have when patting a dog or child (or even yourself) for doing a good job.

Touch regularly and enjoyably. It's important to come across as a man who touches people because he likes it. He also knows that the other people like it too.

You can make her feel comfortable with your touch because you'll come across as a 'touchy-feely' man. Touching people is just part of who you are and so be it.

Internalize these tips and you'll be more successful at touching a girl from Korea (or anywhere) more intimately. As long as you avoid this #1 mistake!

The #1 Mistake That Guys Make
When Touching a Woman

A lot of guys (including myself) believe that when a woman rejects something we do that she's rejecting US.

The biggest mistake when learning how to touch a girl is to confuse rejecting your touching with rejecting YOU.

Touching her intimately so that she's comfortable means pushing the limits. There will be times where she's saying "don't touch me!" Most of the times it's because of the errors above.

So take the feedback and re-calibrate your touching. This will make your seducing more enjoyable when you date Korean women.

One time I was on a date with a Korean woman and she wouldn't have any of my touching.

I kept re-calibrating and escalating the interaction.

End result? We were in my bed 2 hours later.

She even told me that she never "just sleeps with a guy."

Even I was shocked that we ended up being so intimate!

Granted it ended up being just a one time thing as she never returned my calls. Ah well… ;-)

In any case - have fun!

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Red Flags (girls): 1) PLASTIC SURGERY: - check if double eyelids -> more chance of further surgery having been done. - further surgery is normally a) shaving off the V of Chinline (V-line means beauty) b) Making the nose higher (like western nose = beauty)

Red Flags (girls):

1) PLASTIC SURGERY:
- check if double eyelids -> more chance of further surgery having been done.
- further surgery is normally a) shaving off the V of Chinline (V-line means beauty)
                                          b) Making the nose higher (like western nose = beauty)
- Ask for childhood photos (- can see about nose and chin)

2) ONLY WANT MONEY (SOCIAL STATUS) or FREE ENGLISH LESSONS

3) MAKEUP <-> NO MAKEUP

4) SHORT, FAT and STUBBY (- average 80%)

5) PARTY-ER (while still old.. = no loyalty)

6) FAMILY CONDITION (family's work/siblings and spacing)

Conversation Flow: 1) KakaoTalk -> 2) Facebook -> 3) Age -> 4) Connection = same hobbies -> put in same circle (= on the same side against the world). -> 5) Sharing stories of past/funny/fun experiences/teaching things.

Conversation Flow:

1) KakaoTalk
->
2) Facebook
->
3) Age
->
4) Connection = same hobbies -> put in same circle (= on the same side against the world).
->
5) Sharing stories of past/funny/fun experiences/teaching things.

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목차 1 대한민국의 미팅 1.1 방식 1.2 용어 1.3 미팅의 여러 형식과 파생어

대한민국의 미팅

방식

남녀양측에서 미팅을 주선하는 사람이 동성 친구들을 모으고 날짜를 정하고 자리를 마련한다. 이 때, 남녀수는 일반적으로 짝이 맞아야 하므로 동수가 되거나, 주선자를 빼고 동수이다. 남자측과 여자측이 한 테이블에서 서로 마주 보고 앉아서 서로 이런 저런 이야기를 나누면서 자신의 마음에 드는 사람을 찾게 되는데, 이때 자신의 마음에 드는 상대를 골랐다는 표시를 간접적인 방식으로 하게 된다. 서로 마음에 맞는 사람이 정해지면 그 커플이 함께 자리를 뜨는 방식으로 2차 데이트가 시작된다. 헤어질 때는 서로 연락처를 주고 받는데, 서로 마음이 맞으면 연락을 지속하고, 그렇지 않으면 미팅이 1회로 종료된다.

용어

• 퀸카(←Queen Card):미팅에 나온 여성중에서 남성들의 주목을 끄는 가장 매력적인 사람을 가리킨다.
• 킹카(←King Card):미팅에 나온 남성중에서 여성들의 주목을 끄는 가장 매력적인 사람을 가리킨다.
• 폭탄:미팅에 나온 남녀중에서 외모적 매력이 매우 떨어지는 사람을 일컫는다.
• 폭탄제거반:폭탄으로 지목된 사람을 먼저 데리고 나오는 임무를 맡은 사람.

미팅의 여러 형식과 파생어

미팅의 마지막 글자인 -팅이 접미사 파생을 통하여 여러 데이트 방식을 일컫는 말로 쓰인다.

• 폰팅:모르는 사람에게 전화를 거는 데이트 방식으로, 휴대폰 보급이전에 유행하였다.
• 소개팅:한 사람이 다른 사람을 소개시켜 1:1로 만남을 갖는 데이트방식이다.
• 번개팅:온라인에서 알게 된 사람을 오프라인에서 실제로 만나는 것을 말한다. 줄여서 번개라고도 한다.
• 데이팅:웹사이트에서 실제 데이트코스를 조합하여 만나는 방식을 말한다.
• 문자팅,문팅:휴대폰의 문자메시지를 주고 받는 데이트를 말한다.
• 쪽지팅:웹사이트에서 1:1 쪽지 서비스를 이용한 데이트를 말한다.

분류:

• 데이트

EPIK Cultural Shock

Korean base privacy on the status and relationship of that person meaning certain personal information such as age, marital status etc are necessary in order to maintain that relationship.

Koreans give personal information to strangers or casual acquaintances to become more intimate whereas Westerners require intimacy first. We like to know someone first.

Restrictions among western friends are
1. Not borrowing money. We have a saying in the US “If you want to loose a friend loan them money “
2. Respect a friend’s privacy
3. Not putting another under obligation. Again we don’t mind if you ask but learn to accept no without being offended.

Korean ways are
1. Respecting the elderly (though I do not see this on the subways and buses nor with the handicapped or mentally ill) Korean society has been influenced by the West to wait in line, but it is still uncommon. Westerners and Koreans have opposite views on courtesy in a business relationship.
Westerners place business and personal relationships separate as to keep neutrality in decision making and to process quickly. Whereas Korean’s value personal connections for a long-term, trusting business relationship. Both of these practices have their good and bad points. I personally will not rent an apartment to a friend, close associate or a friend or a friend. It can cause too many problems and cause one to make decisions based on that relationship and not what is necessarily good for the business.

Let’s talk about what we are all here for “English Education.” I grew up in a family of teachers and have many friends who are teachers in the US so I was really taken back when I came to Korea.

Though Korea has a national curriculum there seems to be no conformity in English Education. Even in the Universities where Native Teachers have a Master Degree and are teaching Koreans about English Education the majority of their degrees are not in English. In Korea’s thirst for English Education they have been bomb-barded by many Koreans and foreigners who lack the skills or the passion as teachers. In choosing a NT, recruiters first seem to look for someone who is white; between the ages of 22- 35 then they consider their experiences last.

Rumor has it in the foreign community that NT’s will no longer be considered for coveted positions in public schools in Seoul or Busan if you are over 50 and sometimes down to 40. I have seen this myself on the websites. Recruiters have told me to only look for positions in the country or less popular areas.

Korean teachers have too much power in what goes on in the relationship and when something goes wrong they have no where to turn. Again I am lucky at my school as the teachers there are real cool.

(Maybe a board of Koreans and NT’s who are trained in conflict management and cultural differences and can give needed information to live and work in Korea).

2.

Consistency in teaching methods- Though I like to do many things in teaching we want consistency in certain teaching methods. Being from a family of teachers I have learn that students in the elementary schools need to build a solid foundation and some things are just not negotiable.

In the English language there are 220 Sight Words. These are all taught from pre-kindergarten through 3^rd grade in western schools. This starts a foundation where children will be able to recognize the meaning of a sentence even though they may not understand every word. At least one sight word is in every sentence in the English language.

In Korea this should be mandatory starting in the first level in which English is taught and should be finished within 4 years or the 6^th grade whichever comes first. Students can do many things to learn these sight words through stories, games etc. Word families should also be apart of that program. Scholastic and Spectrum are my favorite companies in providing books etc for this purpose. I can also provide you with other favorites upon request. Most can be bought in Korea. Also word families should be taught in the upper elementary levels. Students want more than anything to be able to talk to foreigners. This can be done by doing Surveys. A great book for this is “The Survey Says” 100 Surveys for Students to Conduct by John Cabot. It gives them a sense of pride and makes them want to continue learning. Yes, English is difficult but like all languages English is based on a timeline and rules. Once these rules are taught it makes it easier to comprehend why English is the way it is. I am including with this essay what I would teach in the ideal situation on the elementary level to build a foundation for the middle schools and above. But since most NT’s only assist and the curriculum in mandatory it makes it more difficult but not impossible.

Most after school programs are also difficult due to the different levels placed in one classroom. How I deal with that is to pair two lower level students with 3 higher level students so they can help them.

I have spent millions of won on my students in Korea. Many NT’s tell me I am crazy and maybe I am. But I love what I do and I love these kids. I believe that to teach English one must also live it. In Korea too much emphasis is based on the tests they take to enter college making English a dreaded and most hated subject among the Korean students.

This is why after years of language learning they still cannot speak it. That is sad. I teach English but I also teach hip hop and yoga (which teaches English words about movement and dance. It also builds confidence. I tell my students that hip hop, like English looks difficult but if you break it down and make it fun it is much easier. Also students in after-school programs need to be able to use English more with foreigners through doing surveys, eating in English restaurants and going where foreigners are.

because really after all the cultural and personal differences are put aside, are we really all that different? I don’t think so. We all want the same things, Love, Happiness and success for ourselves and our children.