7 Kinky Things She Loves But Won't Tell You 7 Kinky Things She Secretly Loves

Hit a sexual slump? Don’t worry, it happens. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you, per se; it just means that you probably need to break out of your stale sex routine.

Most women need more than a “wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am” approach to sex. They need excitement, passion, heat, and… kink? Some women, however, may be unsure how to approach the subject, simply because “nice” girls aren’t supposed to like dirty sex. But you’d be surprised how many of them do.

Next time the two of you are lying in bed and you’re contemplating whether or not to fake a headache, try asking her if she might like “something different.” Here are seven kinky things your lady might be fantasising about, but is probably too shy to tell you.

1- Stroke It

Masturbation is a healthy part of life, so why not share it with your partner? If you’re not too shy, put your guard down and let her watch as you get acquainted with yourself. The whole voyeurism element has a certain mystique that might appeal to her. The big perk for you is that after she watches you please yourself, she might get a few new ideas or tips on how she can improve the way she pleases you.

2- Fender Bender

Anal sex is a century-old position, but it tends to have a negative stigma attached to it. This might be why some couples have yet to venture into this unknown territory, and why some women might be a little shy when it comes to suggesting it.

You can start slowly by spooning -- the position in which you both lie on your sides, so that her back is facing you. This is a very slow and intimate way of starting, and it's crucial to making anal pleasurable for her. Once you’ve mastered this, you can graduate to full-fledged, passionate anal sex (you know, the kind you see in movies).

3- Tough Love

Is she a control freak? Then maybe she’d like to try a little S&M. This is the practice by which you become submissive and let her boss you around with a few props, such as whips and handcuffs. It might get a little painful at times, so before the hot wax and nipple-pinching ritual begins, make sure you’ve established a code word, like “Kola” or “toad in the hole,” so she knows when to stop the action.

You may be wondering, “What’s in it for me?” Well, you get to help her live out a lifelong fantasy, and you make her feel happy and secure in your relationship in the process. Plus, you get to see her in a hot leather outfit.

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4- Gadgets and Gizmos

Sex toys are a fun and exciting way to put some heat back in the bedroom. You can take baby steps and begin with heated and flavoured massage oils, then try applying some orgasm-enhancing lubricant to her genitalia, and finally, you can use a vibrator on her.

Once you’re both feeling a little more adventurous, you can tackle the world of dildos and anal probes and beads. Use them on her, let her use them on you, take turns, or find a way to use them on each other at the same time. Regardless of how you do it, this bit of kink is sure to kick-start a heated sexual frenzy.

5- Curtain Call

If you dabbled in theatre at school, you now have the chance to star in your own show. Role-playing might be on her “must try” list of sexual fantasies. Map out interesting scenarios or pick real-life sexy couples to model yourselves after, then grab some fun costumes and let your imaginations guide you.

You might feel a little silly at first, but after a few “rehearsals,” you’ll probably start to like it. Some characters, like her French maid or your sultry Latin cabana boy, might start to make regular appearances in the bedroom. You might also like to tape this little production; you can watch it together afterward over some popcorn.

6- Shall We Dance?

It’s no secret that most guys would love to see their significant other do a private sexy dance for them. Some couples even go as far as to have poles installed in their bedrooms. But have you ever thought about how you would fare dancing with that pole? I bet she has.

Why not surprise her with a sexy little dance of your own? Throw on one of her favourite songs, and just go for it! Feel free to do a little practice dance in front of the mirror when you’re alone. And don’t worry about making a fool of yourself -- she’s likely to be so touched that you went through the trouble that she won’t even notice your two left feet.

7- Three’s A Crowd

For the more adventurous, thrill-seeking woman, adding someone new into the mix might be interesting. That’s right -- having a threesome isn’t necessarily only your fantasy. Some women have also entertained the idea. For those of you who are deterred by the idea of sharing your woman with another man, or just by the idea of being in bed with another man, don’t worry because another female fantasy that might come into play here is her desire to be with another woman.

Something important to note -- before you start running a list of her friends through your head as possible candidates -- is that threesomes might be dangerous for a relationship. So, make sure you discuss it thoroughly beforehand and you both understand what the boundaries and limits of this romp are.

embrace the kink

If you’ve sensed a recent lack of heat in the bedroom or if you just want to surprise her with a few sexy suggestions, kink might be the way to go. While she might not want to engage in all the suggestions listed, some might peak her interest.

Now that you’re savvy in the art of kinky female fantasies, you’re ready to sit down and have a conversation with her. Ask her if she’d like to spice things up a little, and how she feels about anal sex, using toys or S&M.

So, pick and choose a few of the kinky concepts that interest you, and bring up one or two the next time missionary’s just not cutting it.