Have these questions bother you before?: Is she enjoying herself? Are
you doing it right? Women can be hard to read, especially when it comes
to lovemaking. Though, all in all, if she is getting off you are bound
to know about it on some level. If you’re not so sure and need some
reassurance, check out her more subtle signs — her sexual body language.
Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.”
She will show you — hopefully in no uncertain terms — how you’re
performing. Her body will display some overall signs of arousal that she
can’t fake, but remember every woman is different. So, yes, it can
often be just as difficult to get nonverbal feedback on your performance
when there are so many variables. Here are some general sexual body
language signs that she’s getting exactly what she wants from you.
Rapid breathing
Our breath when resting is a very peaceful and tranquil movement of
air in and out of our lungs. It has the delightful title of
“inspiration” for breathing in, and “expiration” for breathing out. When
a woman is turned on, however, this breath comes in urgent puffs and
probably has some involuntary moans escape with it as the air is forced
quickly past her vocal cords. The increase in heart rate when her body
prepares for orgasm means her internal organs and muscles are demanding
more oxygen. If you can hear her breath change, you’re on the right
track. If you can feel her heart thumping, you’re well on your way. This
is her sexual body language giving you signals that she’s aroused.
However, if she’s breathing normally after having her “big orgasm,”
perhaps she’s a big faker.
General writhing around and body movement
If your girl is curling her toes and writhing against you, chances
are she’s probably enjoying herself. Grinding and pushing against you
means that she’s really getting into it. If she’s lying there limp, then
things probably aren’t happening for her. Try changing positions, or
stop entering her and warm her up from the beginning with your mouth or
hands and see how her sexual body language progresses from there.
Thrusting hips
When she meets your thrusts, you’re doing something right. It’s
pretty safe to say that if she’s matching your body movements and is in
time with you, then she’s getting something out of it. Good sex is often
much synchronized, as that is how our bodies are designed to produce
orgasm; repeated movements in the right spot build to a climaxing. The
trouble is finding the right spot, of which there are many. If she isn’t
meeting your thrusts then her sexual body language is telling you that
she wants something else, so change positions and sees how she responds.
Reading her sexual body language means increased pleasure for both of
you.
Arms splayed out
If she’s holding herself close she may not be feeling wild abandon —
her arms may be around you, her hands may be on your chest, above your
head, wherever, except they’re being held in close to her own body. If
she’s on top she may need her arms to maneuver herself and give herself
some leverage to get the best angle. This is certainly not a definitive
gesture, but can be useful. Her body should be responding to the
situation at hand. She shouldn’t be worried about covering herself up or
where her arms are. If her arms are stretched wide, either held out to
the side or splayed out on the bed sheets, you can bet her sexual body
language is telling you you’re right where you need to be and she’s
comfortable (and enjoying the ride).
Vaginal muscle movement
You have one of your most sensitive parts inside one of her most
sensitive parts — with each movement inside of her you can feel the
walls of her vagina, the muscles and flesh. The vaginal wall is an
incredibly strong muscle and she will probably use this to some extent
for her own pleasure during sex. You may also feel the contracting and
relaxing during orgasm — her vagina spasms and this will clench you to
some degree — but not always, so don’t use that as a benchmark. Some
women do have great control, and those who do are likely to have better
sex and orgasms in general. If you don’t feel any clenching, don’t
panic. You may know already by the feel of her vagina when she’s not far
away from orgasm — she may let you enter further, or the overall
sensation may be “just right” for you both. Only you can tell, so pay
careful attention to her sexual body language and what’s going on inside
of her.
Learn the language of Loving
Women love sex as much as men do, but what’s sometimes missing is the
self-knowledge, and of course a skilled partner who brings out the
erotic best in himself and her. If you’re unsure as to whether your
lover is enjoying herself during sex, there is a need for more
investigation. Communicate verbally and non-verbally; ask her what she
wants you to do, carefully watch and listen to her responses to what
you’re doing and don’t assume that what worked for your other
girlfriends is going to work for her. Every woman (and man) has
different tastes and won’t necessarily respond to the same touches, so
try a few different things and don’t stick to a routine. Experiment,
tease, tantalize, change positions. When you hear her moan, you’ll know
you’ve hit just the right spot, so don’t stop there.
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