They will give you some information about your Korean date.
* Previous relationship patterns
* Experience with your culture
* Sexual experience and tendencies
These questions are indirect so that she doesn't know that you're evaluating her potential as a mate.
That way you're likely to get a genuine feel for your compatibility. You'll get straight to the truth.
Ready? Here we go!
Before The Relationship Compatibility Questions - Play The 'Question Game'!
What's the question game?It's a Japanese game that my friend taught me. You use it to help each other ask uncomfortable but rapport-building questions to know each other better.
For example, instead of limiting the date questions to "What are your hobbies?" you are now allowed to ask "What's the worst hobby you've ever tried?"
You can ask deeper and more meaningful questions that really give you both the answers you want.
These are the 4 rules
* She asks you a question, and then you ask her one
* When you must tell the truth
* You can't ask the same question
* She can choose who starts
These rules create an environment that allow you both to ask the true and practical relationship compatibility questions without feeling awkward.
Usually you want to start this game when you're someplace quiet with her. If you're surrounded by people she (and you) might feel self-conscious about your answers. This will hurt your chances at trully getting to know her.
"So what questions should I ask?"
Questions For Relationship Patterns- "When Was Your Last Relationship?" And "Why Did You Break Up?"
You can ask her "When was your last relationship?" or "majimak guan gay onchay isso soyo?" (마지막 관계 언제 있었어요?)You can predict how long she's used to being in relationships (or able to) based on her answer. If you're looking for a long-term relationship but she says that her last relationship was just a month - then you can assume that she might not be looking for anything long term.
You can then ask her "Why did you break up?" or "way ketnassoyo?" (웨 긑났어요?)
This will tell you what she expects from a guy and what her pattern/agenda is like.
If she says that she broke up because he was a player - what she really means is that she's looking for something serious. So if you are just looking for some fun then be careful of what expectations you create.
"Help! She's answering in Korean!"
If you two can't communicate then don't worry. Keep the questions simple and use a lot of body language! Instead of just saying 'break up' use your hands to demonstrate 'break'. If you still have a hard time then I recommend doing some homework:
Use a translator to translate your relationship compatibility questions or just send them my way. ;-)
Relationship Compatibility Questions
For Cultural Experience
Getting an idea of your culture and her willingness to learn a new culture is important. It will cut back on the stress if you're both able and willing to learn each other's culture.
You can ask her "When was your last relationship with a foreigner?" or " majimak waygukin-rang guan gay onchay issossoyo?" (마지막 의국인 관계 언제 있었어요?)
More often than not she'll say that she's never been with one. If that's the case then get ready to teach her about your culture (and learn about hers as well.)
If she has been with a foreigner before then she'll probably be into what you do. It makes life a lot easier but at the same time you won't be her first (if that's your fantasy.) ;-)
You can also ask her "How many foreign friends do you have?" or "waygukin chinggu-del olmana issoyo?" (의국인 진구들 얼마나 있어요?)
Sometimes even though she hasn't had a foreign boyfriend it might be because no foreign man has approached her in that way. She might have experience with your culture but just not with the dating scene.
This is also important because when a Korean hangs out with foreigners they are making a conscious choice of going against their own.
In the long run this is good because being in a relationship with you will put her against her culture (and she'll have to choose.)
Relationship Compatibility
Questions For Sexual Experience
These relationship compatibility questions are very important. I
recommend asking them and do your best not to be squeamish.They only
work if you're in an isolated environment (your house, a corner table,
etc...) and if you're comfortable with asking them.It's very important that you don't come across as judgemental. If she feels like you'll judge her or see her as a slut then she won't say anything.
I recommend asking her "How many sexual partners have you had?" or "sexeu patehneh reul eulmana issossoyo?" (섹스 파터너를 얼마나있었어요?)
Here you're looking at both her answer and how she answers.
If she seems uncomfortable with talking about it then she might be on the conservative side. If she answers and is comfortable with answering then she's more likely to be cool with sex (which I prefer.) You can also gauge her sexual experience and see if it's something you like.
Note: If she doesn't like answering that question then you can assume that she's never been with a man that way. Either that or she doesn't enjoy it that much. In either case I recommend taking that as a red flag and finding someone else.
Relationship Compatibility Questions
To Save You Time!
These questions will help you find out if your Korean date is someone you can be with or not.
I don't recommend asking all these questions in a row.
You might want to fluff a bit and ask some tamer questions as well to keep the conversation smooth.
If she's not what you're looking for then I don't recommend calling her out on it or anything.
Just finish the date quickly and move on.
It's not pleasant but we're talking about your (and her) time! It's very precious and worth spending with someone more compatible with you.
To your relationship happiness!
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